There is something deeply intriguing about these questions – Why are we born? Who we truly are inside? And, what is our life’s purpose? We have jostled with them since time immemorial. Not just us, some of the greatest minds of our times (and the times before ours) have pursued them deliberately and with great passion.
When we think about the questions emphatically, they seem rather philosophical. But who has the time to spend debating philosophical questions when we are crowded by some very real and immediate problems in the course of our busy lives? We shrug. We move on.
In truth, there is a clear line dividing people who understand the answers to these very questions and those who don’t. People who are happy and satisfied having found meaning, and those who appear unmoored and lost without any direction. The demarcation is distinct and we must choose on which side of the line we will continue standing. To which group we will belong.
Mark Twain said – “The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.” Uncovering the hidden answers to your questions can help you lead a very fulfilling life that is bursting to the brim with happiness and satisfaction. It can disperse all the heavy tension and stress that you have unknowingly accumulated. It can simplify existence. Promote health and wellbeing. And create harmony, filling your life with positivity and beautiful energy.
In this week’s blog post I pose a series of poignant questions. The answers to these questions may reveal aspects of your life’s purpose or its complete truth. Answer them in all honesty. Take your time arriving at your answers. And uncover what you are seeking! I wish you good luck.
1. What do you love doing?
What would you do even if you weren’t paid to do it? What tasks do you love spending your time on, and time flies when you are engaged?
Identify what you love doing first – whether it is working with children, planting in the garden or creating some beautiful art. For some people the answer to this question is straightforward, which is great, for others, it is more complicated.
If you aren’t able to identify what you love doing even after spending considerable time reflecting, I suggest that you begin by picking up some new activities and trying your hand at them. Give yourself a chance to explore and learn new skills. And widen your horizons before you commit. You won’t know what you love doing for sure before you’ve tried it and enjoyed it in earnest!
2. What inspires you?
What do you dream about? What are your passions and desires? What keeps you engaged and happy even while you are doing boring or mundane tasks?
The source of inspiration can be locked within or can be external to you. Tapping into the source of inspiration is essential to staying motivated and on track the pathway to self-discovery.
To unravel what inspires you, take a deep hard look at all aspects of your life. It can be a person or people. It can be a place or taking a journey. It can be books, art or games. It can be architecture. It can be engineering. It can be a couple of things or a number of things combined. It can be one thing very simply. Find your source of inspiration and articulate it to yourself.
3. What are the hurdles in your path?
Are you a confident person who believes in yourself and your abilities? Do you fear you’ll never be good enough? Are you standing in your own way?
Discover what your hurdles are. What obstacles deter you from achieving your goals and desires. It can be a complicated relationship with a skewed power-dynamic and a controlling partner. It can be an unfair work environment. Or, it can very well be you thinking you are not deserving of the success or happiness that comes with self-empowerment.
Whether they are self-created or circumstantial, mental blocks or issues with self-belief, enlist all hurdles. Try to arrive at the root of all issues by being astute and detail-oriented. Do not dismiss behaviours or conditions. If they affect you in the very least, you list them!
4. How can you overcome obstacles?
Have you created obstacles to stay within your comfort zone? Are your challenges unmoving, stubborn and obstinate? Can you overcome hurdles without creating more stress for yourself?
Overcoming hurdles requires being highly-deft and creative with your thinking. If it is an issue with unchanging mindsets or complex relationships, try an assortment of skills such as communication, assertion and give & take to work out the problem. If the issue is more circumstantial, try changing your approach. In the end, there are a variety of ways you can overcome your obstacles.
5. How can you align dissimilar or conflicting goals?
Do you have two or more goals that are conflicting? Are your partner’s goals and ideas very dissimilar to yours? What will make your life more harmonious and in sync?
Aligning dissimilar goals is very similar to overcoming obstacles. You need creativity, positivity and an ability to take in the big picture.
An example of this can be when your goal is to travel and explore new destinations, while also keeping a steady job and earning sufficiently. These two seemingly dyssynchronous goals can come together quite nicely when you think of working online, earning your living working on small contracts and then spending (economically) on your travel.