How To Get Better At Managing Your Emotions

Emotions are our defining feature as human beings. We are emotional beings. We emote. But sometimes these highly volatile, pressing feelings, like a force of nature, get the better of us. And then, as the tables turn, we end up being controlled by our emotions.

When the emotions are in control, they dictate our thoughts, intentions as well as actions and ignore the sound and sensible warnings of our mind. We swing like a pendulum between two extremes – extreme gratification and extreme unfulfillment – and, somewhere on the way, we lose our perspective completely.

Let’s take the example for two people, Mindy and Kylie. These two ladies are good friends who often spend a lot of time together. However, they are very different people. Mindy is extremely impulsive. She is also sensitive, and the smallest incident is enough to rile her up. She complains about everything, from a change in weather to the queue at the teller. Kylie has a calmer disposition. She is more reasonable when it comes to her emotions. She doesn’t let small things get to her and takes them in her stride. She is also the happier person of the two.

We all aspire to become more like Kylie. There are however a few things standing in our way. I will explain these things in my blog post as I walk you through the steps you must take to manage your emotions better. Keep Mindy and Kylie in mind as you read on.

Acknowledge how you feel

When things affect you strongly, it is important to take a step back and acknowledge how you feel. The storm that rages inside your mind and heart needs to be calmed before you can make any rational decisions. Acknowledging how you feel, whether it’s negative or positive emotions, will help you gather yourself and keep from making biased decisions that are bound to fail.

We often override this step and press on with our decisions. This is what Mindy does too. Kylie, on the other hand, is more understanding of herself and takes the time to acknowledge her emotions before making any decisions.

Learn to forgive and move on

Forgiving others can have a very positive effect on our state of mind. The quicker we forgive, the easier it is for us to shed the emotional baggage we carry and move on. When we dilly dally with guilt, judgement or similar ill feelings, we are forced into a state of limbo and indecision. Long drawn battles with self like this can be very stressful and draining as well.

Make a habit of forgiving others and even yourself. Keep an open mind. Suggest a compromise that works for everyone involved. And stay constructive.

Take a moment before you react

Many of us feel the urge to react immediately even though we hear the voice in our head screaming “No” as we do it. Take a moment. Tear some paper. Punch a pillow or scream into it. Sleep overnight. Do anything that will distract you for those first few crucial minutes. Then when you are stable, think rationally, form your thoughts and make your decisions.

Mindy, from our example, is the first to react whenever there is conflict and sometimes, she is the reason for the conflict. Her inability to hold back has cost here many-a relationships and precious friendships. Kylie, on the other hand, prefers to go for a jog and wear down her distress before making her decisions.

Find a healthy outlet and vent

Emotional situations can last a very long time and manifest in unimaginable ways if they are not managed properly. Finding a constructive vent is essential. Art, craft, gardening, exercise – all these are fantastic avenues to explore. Talking to a friend or counsellor and sharing your emotions can be a cathartic and healing experience.

In her later years, Mindy has learnt that talking things over with Kylie can be a very calming experience for her. This has also led to a drastic improvement in her general behaviour. Kylie is a good person, but Mindy’s experiences are teaching her to be empathetic to people in distress.

Try to see the bigger picture

Being emotional can keep you from seeing the big picture. Whether it is what the other people involved in the situation are also going through, or it is the impact of your one careless thought and action. Being emotional can quickly become a blindfold and you cannot see the consequences of your actions.

Mindy is now learning to pay heed to the big picture. She is learning from Kylie about how to be positive and think creatively. She is learning from her past mistakes and taking the time to seek forgiveness from people she wronged.

Experiencing Caffeine Withdrawal? What Do You Do?

Going coffee-free can be magical for your mind, body and spirit. You will feel healthier, better and more active. But before you go cold turkey, there are a few things you should know.

Coffee is the most commonly consumed (overconsumed?) psychoactive substance. It is a central nervous system stimulant that is also highly addictive.

It stimulates the nerves and heightens the neural activity in the brain. This is why you feel alert, bright and fresh after drinking a cuppa. If you are a coffee drinker, you most likely know this!

And if you are addicted to your coffee and drink it more regularly, you can experience withdrawal symptoms as you abruptly discontinue it. From painful headaches, fatigue, restlessness, anxiety and irritability to depression, reduced concentration and moods and tremours, you can experience a range of symptoms.

Depending on the extent of your addiction, symptoms can be light or severe and can last from two to nine days. Peak intensity of symptoms usually occurs 24-48 hours after you first quit coffee.

Thankfully, there is a way of cutting back and quitting that can be very effective. Here in this week’s blog post, I discuss these tips. Using these, you can considerably reduce the unpleasant side-effects and avoid going into withdrawal.

Quit slowly

When you decide to quit coffee, don’t do it suddenly as this may make the symptoms worse. Take it slow. Reduce your intake gradually before you stop completely.

Know that quitting caffeine abruptly can cause severe and unwanted changes to brain chemistry. This can affect your mood and wellbeing as well as other aspects of your health.

Find replacements

Drinks such as decaf herbal teas and shakes can serve as great replacements for the caffeine. Find the ideal beverage that gives you a boost of energy as well as quenches your thirst.

Remember to take it slow and swap one cup of caffeine with an alternate drink at a time. This will help you reduce your dependence on caffeine and cope better.

Reduce caffeine

Consider this – not all your caffeine may be coming from coffee. There may be other drinks, beverages or deserts that may be laden with caffeine. It is important to identify all these foods and drinks and then refrain from them.

Also, reduce any sugary drinks or snacks that you may be consuming. While it is important to take in foods that boost your energy, go for naturally healthy and nutritious choices.

Get proper sleep

Getting proper rest and sleep means that the body can recuperate and recalibrate better. A healthy seven to nine hours of sleep is recommended every night.

Plus, if you are working on quitting coffee get some shut-eye during the day too. An afternoon powernap or siesta can really help you cruise through this journey.

Stay hydrated

Drink lots of water and stay hydrated. Fluids will help you beat the symptoms that tend to get worse when you are dehydrated. Drinking plenty of water also eases headaches and lifts the feeling of fatigue and dullness.

If possible, have a cold-water bath or shower, splash your face with water and rinse your feet in cold water. All these steps can help you feel refreshed and energized.

In conclusion, the decision to quit coffee is a great one. Just remember to take it slow and reduce your intake over several weeks as compared to going straight in. This will help you avoid the withdrawal symptoms, sustain through and quit for good.

If you are going through caffeine withdrawal or want help quitting coffee, talk to me today. I am functional medicine Health Coach and I have helped several clients take this journey and make it.

5 Natural Remedies For Hot Flushes For Women Over 45

It is quite common for women between the ages of 45-55 to experience hot flushes and night sweats as a symptom that they may have hit a stage in their lives called “perimenopause” – or the years leading to menopause.

As many as 75% of the women experience hot flushes and night sweats. A lucky minority experience nothing at all. And a small number of women experience mild symptoms only.

For those who are affected, the signs can be intense and overwhelming. During a hot flush, pangs of heat start in the chest and spread to the head. Beads of sweat trickle down the face and neck. And while it takes anywhere from five to ten long minutes for them to wear out, women have been known to have as many as 20-30 such episodes in a day!

Some women experience only hot flushes without any sweating. While others sweat profusely. Doctors have linked hot flushes and night sweats to the changing levels of estrogen in the female body.

While hot flushes are common, a few natural remedies have been known to reduce their impact considerably. In this week’s blog post I discuss 5 natural and powerful remedies that can reduce your symptoms and bring you calming respite. Here they are:

1. Exercise Regularly

Exercise regularly and include diverse routines that work every part of your body. Go for a brisk walk out in the open. Include some form of physical activity, movement or dance in your every day. Exercising properly like this has been known to reduce the frequency and intensity of hot flushes and night sweats.

Note: For women with weight management issues, controlling your weight through planned diet and exercise may help you reduce symptoms. Overweight women have a higher chance of experiencing acute episodes of hot flushes and night sweats.

2. Include Protein and Healthy Fats

Incorporate protein and healthy fats into your meals. Make your breakfast as healthy as possible as this is the most important meal of the day. Eliminate carbs – bagel, toast and bread – altogether. 

3. Right Clothing

Wear comfortable clothing that is light and that absorbs sweat. This may be especially useful during nights when copious sweating can make it impossible to get a proper shut-eye and restful sleep. Wearing layers of clothing has been recommended by many women as it helps in regulating temperature and you may shed the extra layers when the need arises.

4. Drink Water

Keep yourself hydrated. Keep a bottle of water on your person and carry it wherever you go. Drink plenty of water. This will help you regulate your body’s temperature and make up for the lost moisture during a hot flush.

Add infused waters, teas and drinks to your list of fluids. Vegetable and fruit smoothies are great during the hot summer months, as are stews, soups and broths during the cold winter season.

5. Learn to Relax

Remember that heightened stress can make you particularly susceptible to hot flushes and night sweats. Practice meditation and mindfulness. Practice yoga. Keep away from potential triggers such as coffee, cigarettes, alcohol and spicy foods.

6. Bonus tip

Begin by getting a blood test done. Get your hormones and thyroid tested as well. The results from these tests will help you get an accurate idea of your status and how sensitive you are. Then, talk to a trusted Health Coach or healthcare professional about these tests, your issues and concerns to get guidance on how to manage your situation better.

3 Steps To Feeling Good With A Complete Liver Cleanse

Our gut, liver, lungs and kidneys are superheroes that work together tirelessly to flush out toxins from the body, boost our immunity and keep us fighting fit. They are the reason we are able to survive every day (and everything) from bad diets and light pollution to hard-core substance abuse.

They cleanse our systems and rejuvenate us. They help us maintain a healthy state of being. But, as they perform their critical functions, toxins that aren’t flushed out accumulate in our systems and over time we experience heavy toxicity build-up.

In a healthy condition the liver can function optimally: scour out the toxins in the body, convert them into their water-soluble form and efficiently excrete them out. But when the liver is impacted it gets overwhelmed and is unable to perform. As days go on, the situation may compound and worsen.

When this happens and depending on the extent of the damage, you may experience bloating around your upper abdomen, sudden loss of appetite and general restlessness, weight gain, smelliness of the mouth and your breath, and itchiness and pigmentation on the skin. Of course, it would be ideal to take action before such a situation occurs!

A liver cleanse needn’t be extreme and you should be able to do it any time you feel. All it takes are 3 simple steps and a loving, gentle approach. I discuss these steps in my blog post this week that will give your body a detoxifying boost. Here goes.

Step 1: Eliminate and Reduce Toxicity

We are exposed to a number of chemicals, pollutants, stressors and toxins, like the ones we pick up from the environment, our beauty products and cosmetics, household cleaning products, or from packaged foods we consume. Eliminating and reducing the usage of all these substances is the first step in a thorough liver cleanse.

Check the labels on the packages of the products for ingredients and manufacturing processes. Household cleaning products have been known to include very corrosive and potent substances. Make sure you use organic, handmade, natural and non-toxic products.

At home, fill your space with natural light. Use natural soy and beeswax candles. Keep plants indoors, they add to the aesthetic appeal as well as contribute to your health and wellbeing.

Step 2: Consume Liver-friendly Foods

There are a variety of liver-friendly foods that are totally recommended when you are considering a liver cleanse. For instance, beetroot, broccoli and garlic are great. Use these in your meals. Raw vegetable juices and green smoothies are also very helpful.

Do follow my FB Live for some healthy recipes. You will also find ample recipes on my website that are delicious and good.

Fermented foods such as kefir, sauerkraut, pickles, kimchi, all these tangy treats encourage gut-friendly bacteria to colonize the intestines and promote health. So do probiotic foods: milk and yogurt. Include them in your meals.

Add a dash of turmeric to your food. The secret is to combine turmeric with coconut oil while cooking. This way the body is able to take in all of the root’s goodness. Munch on walnuts. Nothing beats the liver-boosting power of the mighty walnut.

Step 3: Take Milk Thistle and Dandelion Supplements

Milk Thistle is the single most effective tool of a natural liver detox. It helps eliminate the build-up of toxicity from heavy metals, medication, environmental pollutants and alcohol abuse. It even absorbs the harmful effects of chemotherapy and radiation after treatment.

I wrote a blog post on the merits of Milk Thistle and how to use it a while back. Infused teas and supplements are a great way to include this miraculous herb in your diet.

The root of a dandelion is equally powerful in keeping the liver functioning optimally. It is packed with essential vitamins and minerals. Its natural diuretic effect fortifies the liver allowing it to eliminate toxins more effectively.

If you are experiencing stress, bloating, itchiness or irritation, talk to me today. The symptoms of liver dysfunction are subtle and it may be essential to reach out to someone you trust.

Simple Tips To Detox Naturally & Cleanse Your Body

Being constantly exposed to a growing volume of pollutants, toxins and stressors, our body feels uncomfortable and overwhelmed. We experience exhaustion and fatigue. And we are unable to perform at our optimum. It’s time we take a step back and Cleanse.

There are an increasing number of chemicals in our food supply, in the air we breathe, in the environment and surrounds, in the cosmetics and creams we use, in the household cleaning products…in everything we encounter and touch. That is why a good detox requires that we take deeper more thorough action!

True detox requires a thorough cleanse of the mind, body and spirit. We must include and touch on all aspects of our health and wellbeing – the Physical, Emotional, Mental as well as the Spiritual, or PEMS. 

There are a number of natural ways to detox and flush out toxins from our system. Drinking ample water is a good start. So is exercising regularly and practising mindfulness and meditation. But we must do so constantly in order to beat the toxins from building up and affecting us irrevocably.

It is recommended that we detox at least once every six months to maintain good health.

Cleanse By Gurmayll

My 10-day Cleanse program, that starts next week, is a perfect opportunity to help ourselves. Here, we make a conscious and sustained effort to avoid harmful foods and take in only the good stuff. We engage in exercises that are beneficial. And we practice the art in a guided manner.

Participating as a group, we find support in each other. This brings in accountability and motivation. We learn from each other as we progress and emerge – Cleansed.

Here in this week’s blog post, I give you a few simple tips to detox naturally and effectively. I talk about my upcoming Cleanse program and the tools we will be using then. And I encourage you to take note.

1. Green Tea

Green tea (or, herbal tea) is a great detoxifying agent. It is brimming with antioxidants that help boost your immunity. Green tea also has anti-bacterial and anti-fungal properties. Warm tea can ease bowel movement and aid in digestive function.

2. Water

Drink plenty of water. Water combines with toxins in the body and helps in flushing them out through urine. Water also replenishes and aids organ-function. Washing your face and body with water can have a lasting refreshing effect.

3. Exercise

Good physical exercise induces sweating. Sweat carries toxins from within the body through the pores and out. Even light exercises can be helpful in flushing out toxins. Exercising also activates and releases ‘endorphins’ or happy hormones. These hormones keep us feeling good from within.

4. Yoga

Yoga is as much physical exercise as it is exercise for the mind and spirit. Practice simple yoga movements daily. Spending 15-20 minutes practising yoga is sufficient. This will help strengthen you. Alternatively, you can also try dancing, aerobics, Zumba or any form of movement that captures your imagination.

5. Laughter

Smile often and laugh wholeheartedly. Laughing eases muscles and boosts immunity. It is a good idea to share a laugh with friends and family.

6. Gratitude

Gratitude can go a long way in strengthening you and flushing out ill-feelings and negativity. Maintain a gratitude journal. Share your gratitude and thankfulness through prayer or by talking to a friend.

7. Smoothies

We have a number of smoothie recipes that are tasty as well as healthy. Detox smoothies are effective in cleaning our systems and keeping us nourished. Try a smoothie for breakfast. Use natural, organic, and fresh ingredients.

8. Whole foods

Buy and eat a range of whole foods – fruits, veggies, nuts and seeds. Your local farmers markets are great places to shop for seasonal, fresh, organic and locally-grown produce.

9. Probiotics

The millions of tiny good bacteria that are housed in your gut help you with digestion and in boosting your immunity. Probiotics feed these bacteria. Include probiotic yogurt and milk in your diet. Fermented foods such as tempeh, sauerkraut, and kefir are equally effective.

10. Cooking

Avoid sugary, pre-packaged and pre-cooked meals. Avoid refined flours and breads. Cook your own food. Use quality ingredients and simple cooking techniques. Avoid overcooking. Always eat your meal at the dining table away from the distraction of your smartphone or telly. Savour what you eat.

4 Steps To A Fulfilling & Satisfying Life

When you are at peace with who you are and what you do, then happiness, fulfilment and success follow naturally. And this sense of happiness and fulfilment is permanent, not transient. It is continuous, not static.

What this means is that once you master the “4 steps” approach, you are able to experience life differently, redesign your lifestyle and lead a peaceful, happy and satisfied life. And you can do this forever.

In this week’s blog post I talk about the 4 steps I personally developed that I prescribe as well as follow. I hope reading this blog will help you lead a better more fulfilling and satisfying life.

So, what are these 4 steps?

  1. Focus on your health
  2. Build better habits
  3. Shush the inner critic
  4. Be thankful and grateful

These 4 steps are dependent on the idea that you accept and acknowledge yourself – your true aspirations and wishes, your qualities, your nature and your beautiful self; and, that you believe in what you do – your work, your passions, your hobbies, your skills and talents and your contributions. 

For instance, if you are a busy mom really trying hard to do right by your family and you have a feeling that you are failing, these 4 steps will help you re-centre. Similarly, if you are a professional woman and you feel you can’t dedicate sufficient time towards your health and wellness goals, then by focusing on these 4 steps you will gain greater clarity.

Another crucial principle to follow is that of continuous improvement. We don’t want to apply any rules that alter your life drastically. Rather, we want to do it slowly and in small iterative steps.

For example, when we are on step 1 and building your focus on health, we do it by incorporating things that you find easy to do first. Eat breakfast if you have been skipping it. Go for a walk if you don’t do any physical activity at all. If you eat packaged foods and can’t avoid them, add a side of salad to your order and buy foods with the least number of ingredients in them. Then build on from there, incorporating more and more healthy details to your routine.

1. Focus on your health

As I said above, try small steps and nothing big. Think of the things you can do right now and do them. Don’t build lofty goals that you will never reach.

By doing things that are within your grasp and reach, you enable your mind to think about what’s immediate. You consider yourself and what is important to you. You make little sacrifices for your own sake. And you go on to include what you do into your routine.

Consider if you’ve started eating dark cacao chocolate in place of regular chocolate. Make this transition a permanent one. Don’t go back to eating regular chocolate anymore. And move forward to more such improvements.

2. Build better habits

I understand that some habits are really hard to give up. For instance, drinking coffee or smoking cigarettes. Step 2 – Building better habits, is about creating a better life for yourself through habits that are beneficial.

Try organic coffee and reduce your intake to 2 cups a day if you are having more. Do not smoke indoors and keep increasing the distance between where you are and your designated smoking zone. Create better habits. And move forward with dedication and commitment to your goals. Remember to give yourself time to adjust to change before pushing forward.

3. Shush the inner critic

Your inner critic can make life difficult for you, especially if you are on a journey of change and improvement. You will experience failures and you may fall back on bad habits. Through all this you need to stay positive and focused. You need to be able to bring yourself out of the abyss and re-emerge on your path.

Don’t give in to despair or disappointment. Don’t worry about things that are outside your control. Give yourself love, patience and consideration. Be kind. Remember success comes with hard work and dedication, and after many many failed tries.

4. Be thankful and grateful

Carry this light in your heart as you transition and transform your life. Be eternally thankful and grateful. There are so many things to be grateful for – good health, loving family and friends, productive work, and a wonderful life.

Maintain a gratitude journal and make a note of all the good things you experience. Keep a lookout for the smallest act of kindness and pay it forward. Give generously and wholeheartedly. Share the joy of living!

Epsom Salt For Total Detox & Complete Pain Relief

We’ve known of the magical healing properties of Epsom Salt for hundreds of years! It is considered a salve – soothing and invigorating the body, mind, and soul. And a natural remedy for a number of ailments and dysfunctions.

The mineral gets its name from a saline spring at Epsom in Surrey, England. And it is a naturally occurring compound of magnesium and sulphate.

Epsom Salt is truly versatile and powerful, as well as therapeutic. From flushing out toxins to stimulating muscle and nerve function, and even easing inflammation and migraine – the compound has countless benefits.

Research has shown that the body readily absorbs both magnesium and sulphate through the skin. This makes the ideal way to enjoy Epsom Salt through a salt bath, of course. Take a dip in a warm bath and enjoy the refreshing and uplifting sensation.

In this week’s blog post we discuss the benefits of Epsom Salt, particularly as a detoxifying agent, and how you can use it in your everyday life. If you are participating in the Cleanse later this month, you will find this article especially useful!

Eliminate toxins

Epsom Salt can help flush out toxins from the body – such as heavy metals, chemicals from medication and drugs, and other harmful substances. It acts as a natural cleansing agent, cleaning, softening and detoxifying your skin and body.

When you take a soak in a warm bath of Epsom Salt, it triggers something called reverse osmosis. The salt from the bath interacts with the salt in the body and quickly pulls it out through the skin. The toxins in the body attach themselves to the salt and are drawn out along with it.

Stimulate nerves

Epsom Salt can help you re-balance and re-centre by regulating the electrolyte levels in your body. This affects your muscle, nerve and enzyme function.

Enjoying a salt bath at least 1-2 times a week can help improve circulation and protect the elasticity of blood vessels. It also clears up any blood clots and reduces your risk of getting a sudden heart attack.

Relieve pain and aches

Epsom salt is potent and has a magical effect on aches, sores and cramps. It eases pain and inflammation – from pain in your muscles and joints after physical exercise, to severe pain from childbirth or during menstruation.

Mix a large quantity of Epsom Salt with water to create a thick paste. Apply this paste generously on the affected area to sooth away any discomfort. When you are done, you can wipe off the paste with a warm towel.

Reduce and ease stress

When we are under stress, we experience a range of changes in our body. For example, the adrenaline levels shoot up and the magnesium levels drop. This is true for everyday stress too and stress from our busy and active lives.

When you take a soak in a salt bath after a long day at work, the magnesium from the Epsom Salt enters the body through the skin’s pores. This magnesium then helps produce serotonin – a chemical that creates a feeling of calm and relaxation in the body. Magnesium also helps in reducing the effects of adrenalin significantly. This is why a salt bath is so effective in combating stress, fatigue, and dullness.

During Cleanse

Use the natural cleansing and detoxifying properties of Epsom Salt to relax, recharge, and rejuvenate. Take a salt bath at least 1-2 times each week. Combined with the healthy Cleanse meal plan and exercises, this activity can really benefit you and bring a sense of calm into your life.

8 Simple Steps So You Can Stop Feeling Tired. Now.

No matter what you believe, it’s the mind that controls how energetic and active you feel. And, there are a few things we can all do to help our minds become more positive, energized, peppy and focused.

Because that is what we want, at the end of the day. To feel less tired and dull. And to feel more in control – active and full of vitality!

It is essential to stay productive in today’s fast-paced world. Feeling energetic can drastically improve your quality of life both at home as well as at work.

Experiencing bouts of dullness, lethargy and fatigue are normal. They can last for several days or weeks, usually subsiding and soon, you are back to normal again. But if you have been experiencing intense bouts and having trouble keeping up with your work and routine, these tips that I discuss in this week’s blog post will definitely help you.

If, however, you continue to feel the same way, do have a word with me. As a Health Coach, I have helped several people through these issues and developed strategies to combat them in their very roots. Whatever you choose you have to know – You don’t have to feel tired all the time. There is help!

Here are my 8 tips to stop feeling tired and start feeling energized, now. Apply them to your life generously. There are no side effects, only goodness.

1. Master your sleep routine

A good night’s sleep can help you refocus and energize in countless ways. This is why regular and sound sleep is so essential.

Build a healthy sleep routine, starting with sleeping at a fixed time every night to taking a bath and relaxing before you hit the bed. Don’t work on the bed. Switch off those distracting devices – smartphones and telly. Listen to soothing music and dim the lights. Do everything that helps.

2. Eat well and stay nourished

Your food is your source of energy. This doesn’t mean that you need to pepper your food with sugar or make it artificially energy-rich. The key is in balance and moderation. Make sure you are taking in all the nutrients and in the right amount.

With food, stick to portion sizes and have a balanced meal. Have seasonal fruits and veggies. Have whole foods that are organic and bought from your local farmers market. Give a thought to supplementing your diet with vital nutrients that are missing from your meals.

3. Some exercise and activity

Physical activity, movement and exercise are necessary ingredients that help us build our strength and process the food we’ve eaten. So, by exercising regularly we are creating energy.

Not to mention the feel-good hormones that are generated when we exercise. These hormones signal happiness to our brain and we experience a rush of energy and positivity.

Simple exercises like yoga, dancing or even a brisk walk in the sun can be really beneficial.

4. Reduce stress and stressors

We experience a lot of stress in our busy lives – stress at home and stress at work, stress with the kids and stress with friends and family. Stress often has a cumulative effect and keeps adding to our burden.

It is essential to identify the stressors we have in our lives and learn how to manage them. Not ignore them. Whether it is through therapy or by talking things out with a friend, you should aim at reducing stress to the maximum possible extent.

5. Drink water and stay hydrated

Water itself doesn’t have any energy, but a cold shower, a splash of water on the face or even a drink of a glassful of water can help you feel refreshed and energized.

Use this formula in your daily routine. Drink plenty of water. Carry a bottle when you go out and remember to drink water. Infused waters with mint, lemon and other flavours can be very uplifting.

6. Limit alcohol and cigarettes

This is a no brainer – reduce your dependence on alcohol and cigarettes. Not only is their effect on the body damaging, there is an irrevocable effect on how active and energized we feel.

These substances dull the body and impact our senses. And it is often a vicious cycle of addiction and craving.

7. Take regular breaks

This is perhaps the most potent of all the tips – to take regular breaks. Break out of routines and think fresh. Take your mind off things and develop new perspectives. Take time off your chores and tasks, and unwind.

Oftentimes taking a break can have a cathartic effect. Like venting or reacquainting with someone, you will emerge a new person. And, when you get back to your life, you will feel a new surge of energy to tackle tasks.

8. Let there be light and laughter

A dull dark room creates a dull dark atmosphere. Bring in the light. Open the drapes and curtains. When dark during evenings, use bright lights. You will immediately feel the difference in your energy levels.

Similarly, a dull dark mood can create a dull dark feeling. Break it up with laughter. Use humour to dispel seriousness. Maintain a light and easy composition wherever you are.

I Tried The New Grain-Free Meal Plan, And Here’s How Amazing It Felt!

For me, it was the digestive distress that did it and I decided to take a leap and go grain-free. But for the many others who suffer from constipation, gut-related ailments, inflammation, autoimmune disorders, celiac disease and more, going grain-free can prove to be life-changing!

Not just for the disorders and ailments, but if you’ve been unable to shed weight and are constantly struggling with weight-gain or weight-loss issues, try going grain-free for a month and feel the difference.

Our typical meals have grains in them. Heck, we can’t imagine food without grains – bread, pasta, rice, roti or cereal. Grains are a staple ingredient. So why change?

Because our composition has changed. Our habits have changed. And so has our diet itself. This makes us more sensitive to gluten and prone to all its vagaries. 

Our meals do not pack as much nutritional value as they used to. This means we are receiving less with every mouthful and we are compensating the bulk of our meal with grains and carbs.

We don’t eat as many whole raw foods – fruits and veggies as we used to either. We have a lot of processed and packaged foods. We have our meals on the go, not giving our body enough time to actually break down the food properly. And even then, we are distracted by the glare of our smartphones and televisions.

Some would argue – going gluten-free is enough! I would say it is the first step. But going grain-free is really the whole package.

In this week’s article, I talk to you about my experience of going grain-free and how truly amazing it felt. I will be adding some interesting grain-free recipes to my website soon. FREE for download. Send me a DM and I can inbox them to you.


1. No Inflammation. No Digestive Trouble.

Gluten intolerance from grains is known to cause inflammation as well as trouble with digestion. It also hampers with immunity and general health.

Minus the grains, you will feel healthy and energized. Your digestive function will perform at its optimum. And you will have no bouts or troubles with inflammation.

Try adding probiotic and fermented foods to your diet such as yogurt and kefir. Also, fibre-rich foods such as lentils, green veggies, legumes and beans. These foods will strengthen your gut and improve your immunity further.


2. Beautiful Alternatives

Staying grain-free you can then concentrate on some beautiful alternatives such as toasted nuts and seeds – almonds, cashew, hemp seeds, flaxseeds and pumpkin seeds. Dried or fresh fruits and berries – cranberry, blackberry, strawberry and whole fruits – watermelon, peach and kiwi fruit. Always try and buy organic seasonal produce from your local farmers markets and avoid fertilizer laden fruits and veggies.

You can also have amaranth, quinoa and buckwheat in moderation since these are considered seeds and not grains.

You will uncover ingredients that you overlooked earlier in your bid to fulfil your grain quota. And it is an eye-opening experience.


3. Better Balance. More energy.

People usually feel like they are losing their energy quotient by not eating grains and carbs, this is not true. You refocus and include foods that give you energy without causing you harm.

Good carbs from cauliflower, potatoes, pumpkins and other whole fresh foods are actually good for you. And so are fats from avocados, bananas and mangoes. While you are not taking in grains do take in nutrient-dense foods such as these.

At the same time, I recommend that you reduce your consumption of meat and eggs, avoid intake of sugar and dairy, and be careful to not consume other such foods that may override the good you are doing by keeping the grains away.


Again, if you are interested in trying out grain-free meals for yourself, I have some interesting recipes for you. I will be posting them to my website soon. FREE for download. Send me a message and I can inbox them to you straightaway!

Heart & Soul: A Guide To Making Your Relationships Meaningful

Meaningful, nurturing and giving relationships can be food for your soul. They nourish you with companionship, love and intimacy. They uplift you when you are down. They bring you great joy and satisfaction. And, they add meaning to your life.

If you have been seeking such a relationship with your loved one, there are a few things you need to know. Relationships like this, that are soulful and meaningful, often take a fair bit of work.

Everyone knows that communication and sharing, as well as trust, honesty and respect, are the building blocks of good relationships. But hey, we all make mistakes. And, it is our love and the willingness to forgive each other that dictates how strong the relationship is and whether it can stand the test of time.

Growing your relationship so that you are in touch with their soul, moving closer to understanding one another and deepening your connection – These are some areas that require constant work. We need to unravel our partners, find their innermost thoughts and share secrets. We must learn to be good friends. And, spark a deep and meaningful connection.

You need creativity and insight for this. Here in this week’s blog post are a few ideas that will help. I present them as a guide to making your relationships meaningful. Take a read, add your own tweaks and make them work for you!


Having an open conversation

An open dialogue that is judgment-free, honest and upfront is a good starting point. For some of us who are struggling with issues of intimacy or trust, this may not be an easy thing to do. I recommend giving it a shot nevertheless.

Having such a conversation with your partner means you are comfortable sharing things with each other. Knowing what is going on in each other’s lives is easy when you are in touch and conversing. Talking to each other about your opinions, likes and dislikes, preferences and tastes, opens up avenues for understanding one another more deeply.


Doing things together

Psychologists always recommend this step and of course, it is as therapeutic as it sounds. Do things together. Get involved. Work on a project together. Find a common hobby or passion. Learn something new together. Develop a shared interest.

Working together will give you more insight into each other’s mindsets, characters, interests and approaches. It will bring out their sense of humour and the carefree passionate side they keen under wraps. Exploring this can be thrilling.


Taking a break

Couples are often stressed in their daily lives – demands of the jobs, their family and children, making time for commitments. It can all get incredibly overwhelming. This is why it is important to take a break every once in a while, do it together and unwind.

There is a fun side to your partner that you will be able to experience during your breaks together. Whether it is at an exotic island or right here at home watching a movie, you don’t want to miss this step.


Keeping it real

Ask yourself this – what matters most? Is it happiness and love, or something else? Define your relationship goals.

What are their favourite movies or books? Do they enjoy clubbing or antiquing? Include these in your own life. Make time to read each other’s favourite books and watch their favourite movies. If your partner shares something that is important to them, listen, follow up and take an interest.


Building a healthy routine

Couples complain about how routines bring them down. But think about it, your routine is 80% of your life together filled with normal, mundane chores and tasks.

Build a healthy routine that is both exciting as well as comfortable is really important. Make a habit of cooking together. Deciding the menu together. And eating meals together at a table away from distractions such as television and smartphones. Have timely sleep and rest well. Think about your spiritual needs too.

Overall, there should be balance and peace in your co-existence. And a chance for love to thrive!